When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way— Wayne Dyer


If tomorrow comes....

Note : This has nothing to do with Sidney Sheldon's novel with the same title!

I dropped my daughter off at day care this morning. Nothing unusual, but tis a monday morning and she lingered and looked at me with longing eyes as I was waving bye to her. She wanted to be with me rather than go into her daycare and I wanted to be with her much rather than come in to work. We gazed at each other like lovers separated by society,family and circumstances. The door closed in my face and as I got into my car and started driving, an incident narrated by my uncle came to mind. This happened several years ago when my uncle's daughter, cousin M was in kindergarten.
Mama, as I call my uncle, used to drop off his daughter at school and proceed to his workplace. M always whined and fussed about going to school. Everyday, mami and/or mama had to explain to her why she needs to go to school, how it's important for her to get a good education that would make her independent and add value and blah blah! And she was never convinced. They'd show her examples of her older sibling, cousins and other kids who also went to school. And she'd point to every kid she knew in the 0-3 yrs age group who got to stay home. Explaining the age logic had no effect on her. This process would also delay mama in getting to work. Sometimes, when M lay on the floor protesting, mama would exclaim "The only difference between me and her is that I cannot lay on the floor and cry like her, I too do not feel like going to work!"
One morning as M was doing her usual routine of " I don't feel like going to school!", mama quite unexpectedly said in a fit of frustration, "Okay, you don't have to go. You get to stay home today." M was overjoyed to hear this and immediately overcome by skepticism at this sudden gratuitousness. Mama continued,"But tomorrow morning, you'll get ready without any complaining, absolutely no fussing!"
Suited her just fine. Who has seen tomorrow? Today is here and now and the real deal! She grabbed the offer! Mama made the transaction more solid by asking M to swear in front of the God's idols in the house, by placing her palm on the ground. M followed without any hesitation. The deal was sealed! Mama was convinced that maybe since the cajoling and explaining wasn't working, giving in might! That she would get bored, realize school is more fun and would stop the daily drama. Much to mami's agony, he made this decision and left to work.
M spent the day doing everything she could - stealthily feeding spoons of sugar from the kitchen to ants crawling on the compound wall outside, watching TV, trying to drape one of her mom's sarees and the like. What fun! School was torture, an establishment for strangling the freedom of mind and the creative use of time! Phew! Needless to say, the day passed in the blink of an eye.
It was the next morning now. After brushing her teeth, M started her usual - "I don't want to go to school"! Mama was not totally shocked but this irked him. He asked her " Did you not promise me yesterday, did you not swear by putting your palm on the ground in front of God?". M's reply after thinking for a bit - "Yeah, but you didn't see I kept my palm a half inch above the ground, I didn't really touch the floor!"
Mama laughed his heart out at the answer. He was actually laughing out loud even as he narrated this incident to me. We were amused at M's ingenuity and wit! Recounting this tale actually replaced my sadness with a chuckle and I am glad I entered work with a smile!

13 comments:

  1. very well written! u have a growing audience now :)

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  2. Loved the narration :).

    ps:We follow ur blogs regularly.Keep giving us more to read.

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  3. thanks satish and shyama! I write because it's something I enjoy doing, true! But I ahve to admit every time I post something I look for comments with the enthusiasm of a child that has posted his first letter and eagerly awaits the reply! I feel honored that you visit my blog regularly! thank you!

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  4. Hey Hi Sujatha. Very interesting. I used to be very adamant during my childhood and I hated school. I used to tell Amma that i will sit and practice singing and Veena the entire day if i were allowed to stay back. It did work sometimes until they found out that i really meant it with all my heart.

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  5. wow... loved ur narration suja.. had a good laugh too.. keep posting..!! :)

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  6. thanks Gowri and SK!
    Srikrishna, I think this resistance to school is a common trait among us geniuses - yourself, me, malu and so many others!!!! Just like the world did not understand Einstein, Picasso etc during their times, they haven't figured many of us out! wink, wink!
    I do not recall enjoying myself at school anytime before high school.

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  7. Hey, Suji!
    Idhu nejamma nadandhudha?
    M appakku ponnu nu nanna prove pannirukka! Kept visualizing M, mama, mami and couldn't stop laughing through the whole thing!!!!

    Frankly - For me, so far this has been the best of your ramblings and reflections!

    Keep up the good work, baby! :-)

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  8. Very nice di!! Such a cute flashback!!:)

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  9. Sujata,

    Read the article today only after I returned from Chennai. I loved reading it. One of (many) thiruvilaiyadals of Malu was narrated very humorously. Shall I write one of yours?

    Prem Mama

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  10. Mama, I was waiting for you to read it! This post has generated the most traffic on my blog, so far! Looks like we must have more family based articles. I sure would love to hear from you mama, go ahead! Do write some of mine( God! I hope I won't have to crawl under a table in embarrassment!) and a few more of malu's, Uma's and others too.

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  11. Hey Sujatha!!! :D haha!! What a fabulous narration!! :D I simply loved reading it! Thanks for the post! I love your blog, its so alive! All the posts are very interesting! keep up the good work! :)

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  12. Thanks Sree! You are very generous, not that I am complaining! Little children have an amazing mind, many times they knock you over with their spontaneous, candid words.

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